Annie's Mailbox®, June 3
by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar
Dear Annie: I've been married to "Beth" for 18 months. We have our ups and downs, but it's a solid marriage.
Beth is close friends with "Chuck," a man she dated back in high school. He's a good guy whom I trust and respect, but sometimes I'm a bit uncomfortable with their friendship and how close they are.
To make matters worse, about a week ago I came across Beth's cell phone and the text inbox was open. I noticed a few notes from Chuck, saying he would do a ...
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Posted by: Judith Fowler
Comment: #1
Tue Jun 3, 2008 4:42 AM
On the letter from "Sarah." Anyone who professes money trouble, sells their blood and uses part of the money for two visits to a day spa must not be hurting too bad financially.
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Posted by: Stephanie
Comment: #2
Tue Jun 3, 2008 7:16 AM
Regarding the letter from Sarah, I'm with you Judith. Anyone with real money trouble would absolutely NOT be treating themselves to day spa visits. They'd be using that money much more wisely. No matter how stressed they might be. Taking needed money and wasting it like that would only add stress.
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Posted by: Shannon Newman
Comment: #3
Tue Jun 3, 2008 8:14 AM
Dear Annie,
They most certainly do pay for blood. We have a bank in our area that advertises in the classifieds, every day! You can earn up to $80 a week or $275 a month. All you need is an identification card and a social security card.
Shannon in Soutrh Bend, IN
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Posted by: Kaye
Comment: #4
Wed Jun 4, 2008 10:10 AM
I just have to respond to Mom-In-Laws statement that "IT IS BAD ENOUGH TO TELL CHILDREN THEY ARE ADOPTED". What is so bad about that? We were unable to conceive after our first child was born and we adopted a beautiful baby girl. From the moment I put her in my arms I knew she was a gift from God. Our daughter has known from day one that she was adopted, that she was chosen and therefore very special (7 years of hard labor trying to conceive and finally adopting). I realize that Mom-In-Law must have found out that her parents lied to her and therefore that is why life changed for her. Do you tell a child, "by the way, you are a girl/boy?" No, it is something they grow up knowing. I never had to tell my daughter she was adopted because it was (and IS) a fact of life.
Just for information: Upon receiving my precious newborn baby, I was always asked 2 questions:
1) Are you going to tell her she is adopted? My answer: Yes, I have done my research and found that 100% of the time a child feels anger and hurt if not told from the beginning. And YES, why not?
2) Is there any difference between your biological child and your adopted child? My Answer: NO. Sometimes when talking to other moms about labor I forget that I was not in a hospital in labor with her.
Mom-In-Laws daughter in law should not tell her son that she is not his mother. She IS his mother. The subject will come up long before he turns 13 and if he always knows the story of his conception and the hard labor and all the pain his parents went thru to have him then this will not be a shock to him, it will just be part of life.
And yes, my daughter has spoke about finding her biological mother and yes this puts pain in my heart but it is VERY NATURAL for her to want to fill in the missing puzzle piece. She is grown into a wonderful young woman. If and when she decides to search for her "biological mother" then I will be there to help her.
Sincerely,
Truly Blessed Mom
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