Classic Ann Landers, October 12
by Ann Landers
Dear Ann Landers: Last December, my husband suffered a severe heart attack. The doctor suggested that I notify his family because he wasn't expected to survive. I called his three children (my stepchildren), who live across the country. The youngest son, "Ivan," and his wife came immediately.
While my husband was recuperating in the hospital, Ivan asked whether he could borrow $200 until he could get to the bank. I lent him the money. Meanwhile, as my husband's condition impr ...
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Posted by: peeps
Comment: #1
Fri Oct 17, 2008 1:05 PM
I can understand this mothers point about a wedding right after a death in the family and how much pain she was in.
I suppose the wedding was planned and paid for by then . Invites out and people had probably arrived from out of town already.
I dont imagine many had as good as time as they might have had given the tragedy, but I can see how many felt, it was not the bride and grooms fault that a tragic accident occured. I am sure it was hard on the bride and groom to decide to go on.
NO matter our pain, birds sing, sun shines. Life does go on.
I dont know what I would have done either.
I am sorry you had to go through the loss of your son.
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Posted by: Joannakathryn
Comment: #2
Mon Oct 13, 2008 11:12 AM
I am terribly sorry for the LW's loss of her son, but life goes on. Just because her mother went to a joyful occasion, a wedding, doesn't mean she wasn't grieving. Several years ago, one of my uncles died because of an accidental shooting. His sisters, my aunts, decided that nobody in the family should celebrate Christmas, because he died a few weeks before Christmas. They didn't want any of us to even have a tree. My brother and his wife had two little kids and they told them they weren't going to deprive their kids of Christmas. It made them mad, but tough. I was sad about my uncle, but giving up my favorite holiday wouldn't bring him back.
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Posted by: Jon
Comment: #3
Tue Oct 14, 2008 2:11 PM
I can only imagine how that poor woman must have felt when her son died. But the best way to look at things might be to consider what her son would have wanted. Would he have wanted them to postpone a wedding a day before the event? It sounds like she's hung up on the flesh and blood relationships versus the legal one. I know it's an old letter, but I do hope the LW has mended the fences. It would help if her family would cut her a little slack, considering the circumstances.
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